Advice On Ideas For Romance (For Married Guys)
posted on 04/30/2009
Men think of romance in sexual terms while women think of intimacy in romantic terms. Men don't shrug your shoulders and give up just yet. You can be trained to think like a woman to accomplish your goal of being a romantic husband to your wife.
First, you need to retrain your mind. You have to think like a woman if you want to please a woman. A man's primary sex organ is his penis and he gets in lots of trouble using it as a brain. A woman's primary sex organ is her brain and she uses it to it's full capacity in so many aspects.
Men, we want to please our woman by stroking her genetalia and breasts and we dive right in without realizing women want and need foreplay. The most effective and productive foreplay is romance. The most effective and persuasive romance is the romance of foreplay -- foreplay that lasts all day long and culminates in a night of passion for the both of you. It has been found the non orgasmic women, after a period of time have been found to achieve orgasms after being properly romanced. Perhaps it's because of constant mental stimulation and the anticipation of more to come, in other words hours of foreplay.
Here's how a potentially romantic day for you and your wife could go. Take notes!
THE DAY BEFORE:
1. Email your wife asking if she is free tomorrow night to go on a date with a guy who has a crush on her. When she confirms the date start the planning.
2. Rent one of these 5 movies. Even if you have seen them before or have no desire to watch them; she will appreciate watching these movies with you and I believe you will like them as well. Princess Bride, Groundhog Day, Sabrina (1954), Pretty Woman or Ever After. The movie probably won't be watched. It's the thought that counts but even if you have to sit through it, you won't mind!
3. Make sure the plans for someone to watch the kids tomorrow night are still on.
THE DAY OF:
1. Wake up early and fix her breakfast in bed. Nothing fancy, just cereal, toast and a glass of orange juice or coffee. Whatever she likes. Don't cook anything because it's a waste of precious morning time and the potential for mistakes is too great.
2. Take a shower with her, but no hanky panky. Save all the physical advances for later on. If she's not a person who likes taking a shower with you just tell her you are only there to wash her back - and do what you said you would do. Wash her back and get out.
3. Leave a card either on her pillow or on the front seat of her car telling her that you are looking forward to the special evening you have planned.
4. Take a half day. Send flowers to her job. Not only will she know you love her and are anticipating the evening but her co-workers will know you love her and as an added bonus for her; they will be jealous.
5. Call her at lunch time just to say hi and tell her how you are looking forward to the time you will have alone tonight.
6. Prepare dinner for her (http://www.advice.com/latest/article/2009/03/16/Advice+on+Cooking+For+Friends+and+Dates+%2528recipes%2529) or use your own recipes.
7. Make sure kids get off okay and prepare to turn bedroom into a love spa. Rent a massage table and a foot bath.
8. Place candles around the bedroom and in the bathroom. Create ambience with her favorite music. The rest of the evening is only limited by your stamina and imagination.
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porkfatsucks says:
(205d 4h 5min ago)
Great idea. All day foreplay. My wife will love it. She'll be aroused and surprised the whole day. The downside, she'll expect more of it from then on!!!
justmesuzanne says:
(205d 3h 51min ago)
Good advice! :)
throwtyroneabone says:
(205d 3h 50min ago)
I'll try anything once.
SexyShannonfromPA says:
(205d 3h 42min ago)
Ha! Your wife probably made you write this. Just kidding, this is great information for all men. If my man did this I would flip my wig. I could go for a full body massage. Good advice.
speedocreedo says:
(204d 17h 33min ago)
hi Asahd2, pretty cool advice :-) thanks!
jtrombetti says:
(203d 18h 22min ago)
Good article, but you need to know that some women are in it just for the sex as well. Women should not be lumped into one category just like men should not.
JulianneO says:
(203d 15h 47min ago)
Trombetti, I think as a man he was assuming that sometimes both are just in it for the sex, but sometimes a woman (like myself) wants the romance. The walk on the beach, the door opened for me, my bath drawn, just him pleasuring me (without expecting anything in return), the dishes done. I could go on!
SuiteLife says:
(200d 13h 48min ago)
My husband did a few things for me this weekend and I was stunned. He's not the planning type but I was amazed at the thought he put into out date. He made a shrimp, aspargus and linguine dinner. He bought the new KY for women and spent two hours giving me a full body massage to my favorite music. It was a dream come true. My husband does care and he told me he got the idea from this website. Whoever you are, thanks. Any more good advice for my husband, feel free to share it.
DarlenePetz says:
(188d 18h 17min ago)
A woman's mind is a great playground.
AprilH090 says:
(178d 23h 2min ago)
Despite my parents i can't wait to get married. I'm a hopeless romantic at heart. Nice advice.
YvetteL says:
(94d 10h 1min ago)
This article is very interesting and very informative regarding a male's point of view. Lets see how the men respond to this information. Very good insight
superfreak says:
(93d 3h 0min ago)
I know I wouldn't expect something like this every time but it will definitely relax my mind and body for a wonderful love making session that night. I always say that love making starts in the morning and not few minutes before it happens. Great advice!