Advice On Rejection: If You Like Them, But They Don't Like You Back.

by DemonicBLT

posted on 08/20/2009

First of all, as I'm sure everyone knows, rejection sucks. But it's an inevitable part of dating and relationships. The vital thing you need to remember, dear reader, is that you shouldn't let rejection rule your life.

Now you may ask, "what do you mean, rule your life?" Well there's two ways to let rejection take control.

1) Let a fear of rejection prevent you from asking out the girl/guy of your dreams

and

2) Letting the act of rejection take you to a bad place, letting it destroy your morale and make you depressed.

Fear of rejection is probably the hardest thing you have to overcome in beginning a relationship. But I have to say, as someone who's spent a lot of time being rejected, you can't let it affect you. So he/she doesn't want do date you at this time. A) That doesn't mean they don't want to date you later, and B) that doesn't mean that you're a loser/freak/douche etc. It just means they didn't like you. In which case you can either waste time trying to figure out how to make them like you (although you're just lying to them and yourself at this point) or you can move on and remember there's an ever growing population on this planet. You're bound to find someone eventually.

Getting shot down by a babe/hunk can be a downing experience. But the key to staying afloat in this mad torrent of an ocean that is dating, is to not let rejection bother you. Shrug it off. Cause even if you don't think it, there's more than just him/her out there. Maybe the one you're looking for has been in front of you the whole time and you're just not seeing them. And hey, even if that's not the case, if you shrug it off, maybe that will show the person you were going after how strong you are, and maybe that will spark an interest in you.

However, relationships and dating are tricky. As an unknown author once said, "Love is a fickle thing. Squeeze too hard and it shatters, don't hold hard enough, and it flutters away in the breeze." Anything I say here is, as always, subject to change and relationships differ. I guess, to sum it up before I begin to rant, the key to beginning the relationship is confidence. Don't be afraid to get shot down, and if you do, make the best of it.

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