Advice On Liking Someone Already In A Relationships

by pzero24 in response to request for Advice On Relationships

posted on 08/22/2009

I am sure all of you have liked someone who was already in a relationship. It is very upsetting and can very easily lead to problems. Although there is not much you can do, the chances of the two staying together forever is not too great, especially nowadays and even more when they are younger. Do not do anything stupid to end up fighting with the persons significant other, as that can drag you two apart even more. I will tell you about some ways to get closer to them, all of them requiring patience. If you do not have patience, either learn to have some or move on because if you try to break them up then it will cause more problems than it is worth.

Be There

One of the best things to do is just be there for the person you like, even if his problems involve the one he/she is with. Make sure they know that they always have you to go to whenever they are having a tough time with something. Do your best to support them in everything they do, even if you don't necessarily like it. I would also advise you not to talk bad about his/her girlfriend/boyfriend as that might pull you guys apart and ruin any chances of being with them in the future. Whenever the couple has problems, you can try hinting towards them breaking up but do not say it up front as it might hurt his/her feelings and make you think you are trying to break them up. Try telling them that they can do better and they don't deserve the treatment they get. Just say things to make them realize that the relationship they are in is not for them.

Don't Push Things

Do not tell the person that you like them, at least not right away. If they are faithful to their significant other, they might not talk to you as much because they know that you like them and they could not do that to their boyfriend/girlfriend. Also, do not flirt with them where everyone can see it or else a fight will happen between you and your interest's partner. If you want to flirt with them, start off slow, and do not do anything they do not want to do. If they say no, do not question them. Cheating is just wrong, so if you are going to flirt with them, make sure its within reasonable limits. You wouldn't want him/her to cheat on you the same way he cheated on his/her partner, would you?

Breaking Up

So let's say they finally do break up. The best thing to do is not rush into anything with that person right away for a couple reasons. One is that they might still have feelings for the other person which will severely hurt your relationship. Two, there are a lot of people out there that are looking for revenge. If they knew you tried breaking them up just to get with the person you like, they will try getting you back, either by doing the same and breaking you two up, or starting fights with you every chance they can get. If you want the relationship to last, just wait a couple weeks to a month to let things settle down.

Know Your Limits

Trying to get with someone who has a boyfriend/girlfriend is not a terrible thing. Breaking up a marriage, however, is not something you should do. If you like a married man/woman, kindly move on to someone who is not married. The married couple shared vows to be faithful till death and even more. Do not get them to break those ties. There are plenty of people out there, so please try to find one who isn't married. The divorce and cheating rates are high enough. I don't want to see them get any higher, especially after reading this advice.

I hope everyone the best in finding that one person that makes their life complete. Remember, patience is very important when it comes to finding true love. Do not rush into things and do not do anything immoral. In other words, do not do anything you wouldn't want someone to do to you.

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