Advice On Teen Abstinence
posted on 08/29/2009
Our children are unfairly bombarded with sex and nudity too many times a day for us to just expect kids to 'behave'. Children have a natural curiosity with their bodies, they have hormones raging through their blood stream, peer pressure, and we expect a ten minute birds and bees conversation is going to keep our kids from having sex, experimenting with heavy petting or masturbating?
One ten minute conversation won't get your average teenager to take the trash out on a daily basis. If you want your child to abstain from sexual activity or just not get pregnant, you really must talk to your children more than one time.
This article is for parents who would like their children to realistically go through their teenage years and really until they get married, to not have sexual relations. Sex is a very strong, God-given drive we have. It is a drive that can be controlled, if not tamed. Some people feel it's unreasonable to expect that kid won't have sex and the most they can hope for is that they use protection. That is unacceptable. Set the standard high for them to reach. Don't set it low expecting them to fail.
Sexual purity begins long before puberty. Parents must teach children self esteem and respect for themselves, but more importantly, others. If we teach our young men to respect themselves as well as an admiration for women, they might not be so apt to take advantage of young ladies physically. They might learn from their father that the respect he has shown for his wife can be translated in how he should treat his female friends or girlfriends. On the other hand, if we again teach our daughters to respect themselves, they might not be so willing to spread their legs but keep what is special.
There are resources for our kids and parents. Christians aren't the only ones who want their children to refrain from sexual activity and many groups can help. True Love Waits is a Christian group that helps teens and college kids endure abstinence. True Love Waits is based on Christian views sexuality that require one to be faithful to one's husband or wife, even before marriage.
Of course nothing is as easy on paper as in real life, but it's a lot harder if we don't even try. Your kids are worth it. Your grandkids too. This is not backwards thinking. This is just as relevant today as it was thousands of years ago.
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Bob_Loblaw says:
(322d 12h 41min ago)
Bob Loblaw says teaching abstinance-only worked for Sarah Palin's kids.
mikhail says:
(322d 12h 36min ago)
Taking a religious doctrinal approach to the human body is backward and wrong. It leads to ridiculous injunctions, like for example the one against masturbation--an activity that could actually help your kid abstain from sex.
Also, while keeping young teens (who are not emotionally mature) from having sex may be desirable, keeping older teens and unmarried young adults celibate is a mistake. Having no sexual relations before marriage is more likely to result in marital problems--because people will marry young, marry the first person they lust after, not be compatible, sexually and emotionally, etc--a fact born out in numerous statistics.
yonna101 says:
(289d 12h 6min ago)
i believe that kids from the ages 13 and up should wear protection when they have SEX.
and its ok for them to have sex because sometimes masturbating does not work for everything as long as they are honest with their parent, their should be no problem and are willing to take care of any of their responsibilities.