Advice On Young Relationships
posted on 08/31/2009
I know there are plenty of young teens in junior high or even high school who have had a crush before. They go out with them, think they are in love, and then get hurt when things go wrong. Everyone is guilty of it. What I always wondered was why? As most people know, high school relationships barely work out, and junior high relationships have even less of a chance, if at all.
Don't rush relationships
I'm sure you have all thought you were in love with this one special person in high school. Have you also noticed that you and that boy/girl you were with said I love you after only a day or two of dating? That is one of the biggest causes for high school and younger relationships not working. Do not rush things. Think about this, your boyfriend/girlfriend have lives of their own too. Although you guys are dating, they are still young and have their entire lives ahead of them. Do not expect them to make you their one and only when they are still 15, for example. They will end up dating many, many more people after you in search of the real special someone. Make sure that if you meet someone knew, get to know the for awhile before dating them. They might seem like angels when you first meet them but then their true colors will come out after talking to them for awhile. I can't stress it enough. Do not rush relationships.
Maturity
As much as you younger kids hate to admit it, children are not mature. Gossip in schools is huge. Kids do not take relationships seriously which is why you see so many kids cheating on their boyfriend/girlfriend. Also, the fights increase because kids get mad over small things. If you really want things to work for awhile, look at your significant other's point of view. Try to see things from all aspects instead of just your own. If you are about to cheat on your partner, think about what they would think. And besides, if you don't care about your boyfriend/girlfriend enough to cheat on them, is it really worth staying with them to begin with? Save them some grief and stress and break off the relationship if you feel you will end up cheating on them, because it isn't meant to be in the first place.
My advice to you
If you are a young teen looking to get into a relationship, my thoughts are do not do it. You have your whole life ahead of you. Stay single, enjoy your childhood because when you grow up you have so many more responsibilities. Why stress yourself out while you are a child? There will be plenty of stress coming your way as an adult. It is a proven fact that high school relationships and younger rarely ever work out into full blown love. If you really have strong feelings for a boy/girl, I suggest you wait. Try knowing the person inside and out, and even waiting till the later years of high school. The longer you wait, the more mature you both become and the more you know them. That is key to making a relationship work.
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MrsConfused says:
(328d 2h 54min ago)
Well I don't agree with the last paragraph becauseif teens want to get into serious relationships let them.Almost everything you just said in that last part is going to make kids scared to put their hands in the fire.Otherwise let them learn from their mistakes.