Advice On How To Get Over A Break Up
posted on 10/26/2009
Getting over a break up can one of the most painful times in your life. Whether it is you or your significant other who initiated the step, the shock of separation, loneliness and self doubt can be overwhelming. It is imperative that you have an action plan for this time. Please remember that, "this too shall pass".
The first thing you should not do, is run out and find someone else online or in a bar. At best it will only put a band-aid on the problem, and it's unlikely you will find Mr./Ms. Right while you are emotionally reeling. Accept it is going to hurt, and let yourself go though the roller coaster feelings, from relief, to anger, to tears - it's normal and the ride will come to an end eventually. Meanwhile be as positive as possible, so you can come out of it a better person.
Take some time to celebrate the person your just lost and what you loved about them. Also let sink in what caused the relationship to fail. Take some personal stock of any mistakes you have made, but don't beat yourself up. Whatever you do, do not call your x-significant other. It will just keep the wound open and even if you do a postmortem together, it will most likely not be objective or useful at this stage. Do not drunk dial them. Maybe there will be a friendship in the future, but not now.
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